I woke up on New Year’s day to two stories dominating my social networking timeline (other than all our holiday posts of course) :
1) The passing of Natalie Cole-May her soul rest in peace and all her music about love and authenticity in spite of her troubles. She left us a gift of music – an Anthology I have been glad to be witness to.
2) The marriage of Reverend Mpho Tutu to her long term partner
None of the stories shocked me- as is my nature, because everything happens when it happens. It’s NORMAL for me- people get married, people die.
It’s the noise that follows the second story that has caught my attention and just observation, especially fro a social dynamics perspective- and just reading all the comments, debates and I found myself thinking:
Hating the homophobe for their homophobia is the same as the homophobe hating the homosexual for their sexual orientation. It’s all judgement. Ask yourself- WHO gave you the right?
It’s pity I don’t run a church- but if I did, I probably would be preaching about one thing every day of the year- there’s certainly enough material. LOVE.
I am not an expert at Jesus-or religion for that matter, but what I know about the underlying message of Jesus was LOVE.
Luke 6:37-38, Matthew 5:7, Matthew 6:14,15 Matthew 7:1, Matthew 18:35, Luke 6:36, Luke 23:16 1 Corinthians 13: 4-7, Ephesians 4: 32, Colossians 3:13, Romans 2:1,2, James 2:13, James 4: 11,12
All this in the new testament alone.
And this is just from the Bible. If I go through the Kor’an – the teachings about LOVE would fill this essay.
Love is about understanding and accepting people for WHO they are, not who you think they should be- there’s no requirement that the person HAS TO BE in your life either.
Here’s what I am an expert at tho- Human Behaviour, and I know one thing FOR SURE about human behaviour- it’s bloody complex!
I know another thing- our beliefs and motives cloud everything we read, do and say- and regardless of one’s proclamations, one’s beliefs will consistently show up.
But then again, I believe in LOVE since I have been given LOVE, so what do I know about hatred? Perhaps there’s a great argument to be made for hating your Brother or your Sister for their beliefs. Perhaps I am limited by my own beliefs from not seeing the power that lies in hate.
Yes…perhaps I would not have a congregation at all in my church – so I will stick to my day job- and leave the preaching to the professionals.
I will close this reflection with one of the important Buddhist principles I learned last year:
“If you throw a stick at the dog, it will chase the stick- but if you throw a stick at the lion, it will turn and check WHO threw the stick”
Are you the Dog or the Lion?
PS: Replace HOMOPHOBIA with RACISM, SEXISM, AGEISM and any other -ism- and read the post again- and see if you get a different sense.
Have a blessed day!